"Usually when we are angry with someone we are more interested in fighting with them than in taking care of our own feelings. It’s like someone whose house is on fire running after the person who has set fire to their house instead of going home to put out the flames. If we don’t go home to take care of our anger, our whole house will burn down."
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If you're unfamiliar with Thich Nhat Hanh, please grab a copy of any of his books! He's a Buddhist monk with wisdom for the ages and a peace activist I deeply admire. In this, he gives small offerings that amount to a large vision of what "fighting" looks like when its done well, with compassion, honesty, and patience. Highly recommend!

it's good but just the so-so good for me.

first, i don't know this book was part of mindfulness series that consist of 8 books and i choose this spesific one out of nowhere. maybe after i got a recs from instagram, which actually, i think, less or not much relevan to me because i'm jot that frequently 'angry'. yes, how to fight is talking mostly about how to fight emotion, specifically anger.

the thing about this one is, sometimes i found catchy phrases that 'kickin' (i really feel it kickin since it got me an oh moment) and i took notes about that,

but, (yes the but)

for more pages i feel it repetitive, or have no clear conclusion.

i almost dnf this book and for a thin book intended to be finished in a day, to be finally finish it in a week is a 'yea' sign for me.

This was a great read for understanding how to handle conflict and anger in ways that do less damage to myself and others. I especially loved the peace treaty idea. I think this book is useful for all relationships, from the more causal to the very close ones that we hold dear.