"Usually when we are angry with someone we are more interested in fighting with them than in taking care of our own feelings. It’s like someone whose house is on fire running after the person who has set fire to their house instead of going home to put out the flames. If we don’t go home to take care of our anger, our whole house will burn down."
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If you're unfamiliar with Thich Nhat Hanh, please grab a copy of any of his books! He's a Buddhist monk with wisdom for the ages and a peace activist I deeply admire. In this, he gives small offerings that amount to a large vision of what "fighting" looks like when its done well, with compassion, honesty, and patience. Highly recommend!