Not life-changing, but good. It didn't say much that I hadn't heard or thought before in some way, but it put them into a new light or into beautiful, clarifying words. I think that is also important. ANd I've always had a soft spot for listening to Rob Bell talk about love and marriage ever since that Nooma video where he compares love to all the different flames.

Once I got past the his-and-her back-and-forth writing style, I appreciated the reminder of the give and take of marriage, of intentionally seeking compromise and connection between two very different people, and to look for ways to love each other better.

Rob and Kristen speak in a way that is accessible and helpful. I learned quite a bit and felt challenged in a way that wasn't overwhelming or shaming. It gave me life to read. So, thank you, Bells.

It's not a bad book; it's just also not really what it advertises to be either. Nothing in here is really new or profound and not necessarily exclusively about married couples. The behavior patterns and mindsets they talk about are basically respecting another person for who they are and creating space for them to be themselves with you. I'd say that's true of any kind of healthy relationship. I like a lot of what Rob Bell has to say but sometimes it concerns me with how he seems to need to take the "but this is new and sexy" angle vs this isn't new but it's something we need to be reminded of and this is what helps me; also his penchant for unnecessarily vague and flowery language...

This was the right book for me. I realized lately that I've never encountered a Christian teaching about relationships that isn't gendered. This book was a great antidote, without being exclusively egalitarian. It was extremely spiritual, while espousing everyday, unsexy sacrifice. The only part I am skeptical about is when they say you should never talk about your fights or sex with nonprofessionals. I like the idea of being protective and enjoying, is place for taking discretely in the context of trustworthy community.

Read this with Tyson and we loved it!

Rob is always fresh. No matter how long I stay away from his work, coming back always feels comfortable and new. His ability to craft words and paint pictures of ordinary events in life and make them feel new, exciting, and important.

I love his concept, marriage is a dynamic space between two people and sometimes issues come up because you've brought something to the space that you haven't dealt with yet.

Once I got past the his-and-her back-and-forth writing style, I appreciated the reminder of the give and take of marriage, of intentionally seeking compromise and connection between two very different people, and to look for ways to love each other better.