I actually really loved the first… third? of the book. Some really good quotes in there, and it kept on surprising me and making me laugh. Unfortunately, I found myself really bored by the rest and felt quite unsatisfied. Almost didn’t finish it.
A powerful and valuable testimony from an incredible woman. It’s worth learning about the controversy behind this book, and learning more about the civil war from other sources too.
Sounds like there’s some kind of publishing dispute between the author and Rigoberta Menchú around rights & royalties, which is quite sad to hear (though the main source I found for that was behind a paywall so I couldn’t read much about it).
Struggled getting into this one, then as I was really starting to enjoy it, took a turn.
The transphobia was really jarring and unnecessary, and I don’t feel like it was done responsibly. Plus the way that people’s bodies, especially aging and fat people were talked about…. I can see that the author was probably trying to convey how the character felt without necessarily endorsing it, but again I don’t feel like it was handled well.
Then there’s Billy. Maybe it’s not the book’s fault that it’s not the woodsy slowburn lesbian romance novel that I wanted it to transform into. But still, Billy deserved better than the bury your gays trope. Not for me.
Would be a good introductory book, I think. I admittedly took such a long time to finish it, I can't really remember the parts of it I read less recently.
In general, I found chapters 12-15 interesting (Jealousy and Other Intense Feelings, Compersion, Common Challenges and Problems, and Opening up Again: When Something Changes).
The rest of the book felt much less helpful/relevant to me. For example, The in-depth overview of different kinds of non monogamous relationships was a bit too 101 for me, and the chapter on legal issues tends US-centric.