I had mixed feelings about this. I liked a lot about it, but as much as I wanted to love it, I had a hard time connecting with and resonating with a lot about this. I get that the author is trying to emerge out of her cultural collectivism and the self-sacrifice that can come from it, but this book veered a bit too much into transactional self care for me, in a way that just didn’t land for me. Instead of being specifically about not comparing ourselves to each other, there was a lot about it that felt a bit selfish almost (at least to me). I took bits and pieces from it, but ultimately nothing that changed my perspective or made me feel strongly. This was fine - just not what I was looking for.