A review by shellballenger
Foreverland: On the Divine Tedium of Marriage by Heather Havrilesky

2.0

Type of read: Commuter Read.

What made me pick it up: The content description and cover art got me..

Overall rating: "Do I need to remind you, I'm the villain of this story?"

No. You've made that abundantly clear. Part of 'Foreverland' just seemed angry. And not a good angry, like you're rehashing your troubles over a stiff drink with your girlfriends but can't wait to get back home to your man who has something special in store for you that night, like 'I'm going to take a blowtorch to his car and hope that all of his belongings fall into the bottom of a lake' angry. I really wanted to enjoy 'Foreverland,' and there were definitely pieces that stuck with me more than others. I think what I struggled with was that this was less celebrating that "tedious, glorious drag [of] forever" with your partner and more 'let me tell you about all the things I think are horrible about my relationship but I put up with because at the end of the day, yeah I guess I love this guy and we've built a life together that I don't want to redo.'

I did enjoy that this was written by an individual that shared a similar perspective as I do and was at a somewhat similar point in their life (roughly 15 years into marriage, married their best friend, and love their relationship but acknowledge they are completely flawed and f*cked up). But for me, 'Foreverland' was a bit more self-absorbed and berating than I was expecting and I think that threw off the vibe for me. Maybe that's Havrilesky's tone and general writing style, but I didn't find it to be one that I fully enjoyed.

Not sure I could recommend this one. Or if I did, I'd recommend it sparingly.