"This Is How You Lose Her" on its faces may seem crude and chauvinistic in that every male character in every story seems to have a problem with infidelity. If one reads deeper into each story, there is something going on with these characters that they can't handle which causes their womanizing ways. Dealing with a troubled family member who has cancer, an absentee father, and even societal prejudices, both interracial and intraracial. I don't know if labeling the male characters as "jerks" or "louses" because of their actions and attitudes tell the whole story for their behavior. Diaz has written a series of interrelated stories that brings about the question of masculinity from the POC point of view.