I am not always a big self-help book person but this book was a good combination of information and easy to digest exercises for couples to do together or individuals to do alone to improve communication and scripts for shifting conversations in a healthy way that felt easy to use and customize so that they feel more personal. The book also sets up very real expectations of what the process of change looks like and what slower steady progress can show up as and how to spot it in more subtle ways as your communication and attachment style changes.