My heart aches for what happened in this family. One was loved to the point that it was suffocating, while the other two seemed invisible to the parents. They projected their life goals onto Lydia, forgetting she may have her own goals that she wishes to be fulfilled. The constant push from left and right, to stand out and fit in, it was so frustrating I felt like exploding. The book was written nicely, and the title is very fitting for what it is. Parents never truly know their children, and sometimes they are the cause of their children being so secretive about what they feel. I really enjoyed it.