Though my personal grieving is not from losing an ex-husband but an ex-boyfriend. I am thankful to have been able to read this especially on the early "stages" of grieving. I have found out that there are a few people who welcome someone who is grieving, especially someone who has also lost someone that meant a lot to them. I am one who keeps to myself but have learned that grieving requires to be surrounded by those who will allow you to speak your memories. Sadly the only few people I have found are allowing me to be open with this process are the ones who truly don't know of my ex-boyfriend. I find myself questioning why I have to grieve on my own and not with those who also were dear and close to him for years. I find anger at times, find myself blaming my decisions, but also wish I wasn't pushed aside from those I felt would have accepted me with open arms. I'm finally learning that I do have to have time to speak to someone who is willing to hear instead of interrupt and to do it in a respectable and proper timing. We aren't wrong for grieving an ex, we are just as entitled to do so.

People should accept an ex to grieve as part of family, as all love received or given was and will always be important as part of remembering the person who we all lost.