2nd reread, 2017: Reread because I got all worked up about how there's a TV show, and from what I've heard about the show, it only captures the awful characters and not the awesome thinking behind the characters and it's the thinking that makes the book worthwhile, so it would make for pretty shitty TV, and I was feeling all proprietary about that, so read it again. And these are my reactions:

1) I'm a better editor now than I was then, and this could really stand some editing. I'm less forgiving now than I was then about "its" errors and no amount of breathless theorizing about sex can change that. Also, calling Holbrook, AZ, "Holborn" makes me distrust all sorts of other geographical references to places I don't know, and place names are not like people names, like Dick's; they're just a truth that you need to get right.

2. I cared more about her marriage than about her fantasy this time...or maybe that's not fair. I cared more about the fantasy's role in her marriage.

3. Certain lines, mostly about the ways men talk to women who "think too much," still, again, make me want to punch things and set them on fire. So...spot on there.

4. Despite the question of "who is allowed to speak and why," there's a disturbing lack of intersectionality in a lot of this book.

5. In response to reviewers who see Chris has harassing Dick, as not respecting his boundaries or subjectivity or stated desires...well, yes. Exactly. "Who gets to speak?"

6. Page 174: "To see yourself as you were ten years ago can be very strange indeed." (Except, according to Goodreads, it was only seven)
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2010: not for everyone, but for me, f***ing incredible. funny, heartbreaking, challenging...love it.