I think that this was a very well articulated and well researched book if you want to learn/understand and digest the topic of abortions/safe sex. A lot of the stances that are presented are really solid and I enjoyed all of those aspects. I 100% agree with giving men more of the shared fault and responsibility when it comes to unplanned pregnancies because...of course?

But I'm also hesitant to give this more than 3.5 stars because some arguments are very feeble. Yes, vasectomy's are mostly reversible and also less invasive than getting your tubes tied or getting an IUD put in, but it's still a medical procedure with consequences if you do want it done, not even thinking about the financial resources or pressures if you can't afford one, aren't in the position to get one, etc. I know that her pointing out that women carry a lot of brunt when it comes to medical trauma (Lack of care when women are in pain/medicine/not being listened to/mortality/etc) is very real and I 100% agree. But instead of being divisive, I think that she should've focused on the healthcare industry as a whole. Target the biases btw male and female healthcare other than IUD vs vasectomy because BOTH are procedures that shouldn't be taken lightly?? Arguments like this I think need to be more flushed out, whole, and nuanced.

This was a very very quick read but I would love a bigger focus on the medical side because it's not just talking points but a very real reality that we all deal with, regardless of sexual status. Regardless, I do really appreciate the author and book that she put out. I think it's an amazing starting point and jumping off point for talks regarding abortion, safe sex, and conversations about that responsibility that should be shared equally.