There's a lot to say that would do this book a disservice to explain but it does well to be very even-handed considering the sensitivity of the subject. Divided into four sections, we explore, desire, consent, arousal, and vulnerability.

One of the most interesting aspects was the distinction making throughout: that we should not bundle up desire and consent, for one can be present without the other. Failing to separate them means we give ground to the outright dismissal of sex workers who people often wish to create more protections for.

Further to that, it carefully dismantle the idea that sexuality is linear and forthright, something that (mostly) women need to reclaim and be confident in. But many people don't know what they want and sometimes can't know, sometimes until you are in the situation. Then comes the question of safety, second-guessing, trust, understanding. Part of that is in the act itself, in not knowing.

This is my very bad way of summarising key ideas that have stuck with me but it's a very, very fascinating book. Recommended.