I’ve been dreading writing a reflection for this book cause I worry that my thoughts will run together like a pair of stockings. That the words and my feelings will be messy like spilled milk and it’s going to be hard to put them back in the cup to help it make sense. 

Communion is similar to the grocery store. It is filled with all the essentials, but also some things that you may not need at the time of your visit. You intake what will serve you at the moment and then maybe later on you will get whatever else is left. I went into this book expecting more of a focus on how we can cultivate, nourish, and sustain the emotional bonds we have with family and friends. A big portion of Communion focuses on how love functions in a patriarchal society which is helpful to those unfamiliar with the impact it has on how we love one another. The last few chapters of the books provided me with the essentials I’ve been looking for. 

With all of hooks’ work, I walk away with lots of answers but even more questions. I starting have a midlife crisis at 25 and asking myself things like do I know the difference between love and care. I realized how close I was to becoming a woman that would tamper down her desire for vulnerability and honestly in a romantic relationship for the sake of just being in one and how feminism looks differs from person to person. I sent messages to the people that have shown me how powerful communal love is. Although I did not get everything I wanted out of Communion, I received what was meant for me and I’m grateful for what I gleaned.