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A review by wchereads
Bisexuality: The Basics: Your Q&A Guide to Coming Out, Dating, Parenting and Beyond by Lewis Oakley

Did not finish book. Stopped at 66%.
Let me get what I liked about the book out of the way so that I can rant about how much I didn't like it: I liked the author's emphasis on open and honest communication with the partner(s) in your relationship(s). That's actually a solid advice.

The author is VERY trans exclusive despite having used the LGBTQ+ acronym in the book a couple of times. what does he think the T in LGBTQ+ stand for???
 
A gay man knows he's never going to be able to conceive naturally with his partner

when there have literally been trans men who have wombs and chose to go through pregnancy... Really a surprise to no one but this book also made no mentions of how class or race can affect relationship dynamic. I read The Ace & Aro Relationship Guide earlier this year and even though the author is yt, they at least acknowledged their privileges and stressed on the importance of collective liberation multiple times. Ironic that the author wrote an article titled "Is it time to retire the word 'privileged'?" while being either completely unaware of or refusing to acknowledge his own privileges.

I also read Radical Intimacy (https://www.instagram.com/p/C82Ets0uwR3/) earlier this year and without it I might not have recognized this other issue I had with the book - the adherence to the hierarchy of romantic/sexual relationships over friendships, evident in this quote: 

That said, friends, no matter how comfortable we are with them, need to be accommodating of your new relationship and expect that some things might change. 

The context is that the author was giving out advice to people who found more rules applied to them by their partner after coming out as bisexual and may not be able to be as close to their friends as they like. The suggestion that friends should just... put up with changes is alarming to say the least. I'm a firm believer in the power of communication and I think any big changes in one's relationships warrant a conversation with the affected partners, romantic/sexual or not.

Part of me wanted to hate read the rest because this book isn't that long; but also, life is too short for this. If you are a fellow bi (bi-llow?) interested in reading some books on bisexuality, do yourself a favour and skip this one. You'll get so much more out of reading any radical work published by Pluto Press, for example.