not just about gender, not even just about trans-ness, but about what manhood and masculinity looks and feels like to us now, and from the perspective of someone who was learning what it meant practically and emotionally to Be A Man. so much work on masculinity talks about toxicity — this is not that. this is about the warm parts, the connections, and how men build space for each other to keep each other from being lonely. really beautifully done.