I'm not sure what I think of this book: is it another "blame-the-victim you are responsible for your own reality" new agey thing? Is it sensible advice about being present and daring to be vulnerable? I don't know. While I think some of the advice in here is good, it is hard to get past the hetero-normative, probably cis/white centric world of this book and the way it glosses over very real situations and issues that could use more than a "just don't do that" approach. Overall, I think the bad outweighed the good for me and the things that were good about the book, I could find elsewhere.