This memoir never felt like it was trying to be an advisory, like it was teaching me lessons, yet I walk away from it with new armor I didn't have before. I feel like I can be a stronger queer for myself and others after having read this. Really appreciated the candor and research throughout, so refreshing. I can't remember consuming anything else like this. The format reminded me of art exhibitions and video essays you get lost in. More than once I’d find myself frozen after seeing what I thought were my own hyper-specific intimate thoughts being echoed to a T in front of me. We're never as alone as we feel. I'm young and excited to see how I age with this. One of the very few books I can see myself re-reading in the future, multiple times over.