A review by amy_reads4
Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry

dark emotional fast-paced

5.0

This is a book I have wanted to read for a while but I knew I needed to be prepared as it was going to be painful to read for many different reasons, and it really was.
I think it’s very difficult to review or rate an autobiography/memoir as it’s someone’s life so doesn’t feel quite right to do so, but I can’t share how it made me feel, heartbroken. It’s been publicly known that he struggled with addiction but to read the truth of his battle, especially after his passing, is very difficult and very sad. Chandler Bing was someone who bought so much joy to so many, and will forever live on, but Matthew Perry was a man who suffered and lived in pain, both physical and emotional, a lot.
There were moments I had to take a break from reading as it did choke me up, and there were many moments that hurt even more considering he is no longer with us. The impact that his Big Terrible Thing had on his life is also what impacted the loss of his life, even though he tried so hard to stop it.
I really struggled with the collective feeling of grief so it’s taken me a while after his passing to feel I am in a place to read this. But it has sat very heavy on my heart.
Chandler is someone I have turned to for distraction when my world has felt too heavy, but it seems Matthew never had that. I truly hope he has now been able to find some peace.