I always have a hard time reading books about sex because I'm something of a "prude" (in that I'm very selective about who I hump) and I often find myself feeling attacked for it, but instead of making me feel bad, this book actually made me feel better about everyone else and why they don't get me. I was raised in a very sex-negative environment and I have a hard time imagining what I would be like if I hadn't dealt with all that. After reading this book I think I'm better able to understand people who have a more laid-back approach to sex and maybe from this point on I wont take it so personally when they think I'm weird.

But, sexual selectiveness aside, I also have a crush on EVERYONE which makes monogamy problematic for me (because in the standard narrative, squishy feelings are cheaty feelings) and it was nice to have my feelings put into a context that makes them make sense.

So overall I highly recommend this book. I think it would be a good book for anyone to read because even if you decide that traditional monogamy is right for you, perhaps you'll gain some insight into other people's choices.

That said, this book is definitely biased toward non-monogamy. One of the things I really like is that they don't give advice or tell you what you should do with the information they present, but I can't argue that the authors aren't trying to convince you that monogamy is silly. So if you're a hardcore monogamist, you'll probably come away from this book feelings a little defensive.

I'm something of a soft-core semi-monogamist (does that label even make sense?), so I wasn't too upset about it.