There were moments while reading this collection of essays when I felt as if Roxane Gay had crawled into my head and exposed my inner-most thoughts. Everything from Sweet Valley (though I always wanted to be Lila Fowler) and 90210, to the desire to be independent and still have someone to come home to. And even when I didn't agree with her, I was able to draw something from her words, to question whether I am too complacent on matters of race and gender equality.