i don't rate memiors but i really enjoyed this one. i appreciated how the author dove into all facets that make existing in our current western society difficult for individuals she calls "firsts and onlys." she goes on to discuss her life, the life of her grandmother, and mother as well as the generational patterns that exist in her family structure. she talks about the guilt of making a life for yourself while your family is still struggling. the risks she takes made me nervous just reading them but she trusted her gut and it worked out for her. i like that she discussed her anxiety and panic disorder. the sexism and overall misogyny she faces is all too familiar to women and while it was hard to real, it was important for understanding how this impacted her self-worth and decisions. i read this book to discuss with multilingual teachers and i think this is a very accessible way to understand from a first-person perspective the conversation on immigration, specifically as it applies to latin americans. i'm glad i had the opportunity to read this!!