I don't remember when it was that I first heard of this book. Probably long ago, because it is a famous book by a famous author, first published in 1975 and still brought up regularly in discussions about feminism, literature, men, women. I don't remember when I heard of it, but I remember exactly what I thought: Men can't be raped? Of course they can! This is not what feminism is!
Of course I was 100 % wrong and I had missed the entire point, just like most people. I had not read the book. I just heard the title, and I was appalled. I realized that my reaction didn't have much to do with the book itself, but I did not want to read it. The title already made me uneasy.
In a way I was also right. Of course men can be raped. Why couldn't they be? Män kan straffas men inte våldtas - men can be punished but they cannot be raped. Why? What are our ideas about men, women, sex and power really based on? How have we convinced each other and ourselves that this is just the way it is, always has been, always will be, now and forever amen til death do us part ashes to ashes dust to dust. How, and why?
This is the point the writer makes; one of the many points she makes, all of them excellent. So, I was wrong and I was not wrong.

I'm trying to think of a way to tell you how good this book is, what it is about it that makes it so good. But I don't think I can, and I don't think I need to, because in any case I think this is one of those books that you can't form an opinion on unless you actually read it.
So read it.
Or don't.
You totally should, though.