Content Warnings: Mention of ableism, racism, incels, and rape

Up until a few years ago, I heard asexual used here and there but without a clear definition. It was hard to understand and to wrap my mind around, I kept going to the definition I knew, from high school biology, and didn’t understand how a human could relate to it. One of the many lessons I’ve learned from Tiktok was to dig deeper and be open to learning more. After seeing more videos on my FYP, on Tiktok, where asexuals were talking about their experiences, some of which lined up with experiences of mine, I knew that I needed more information.

This book taught me that asexuality is a spectrum, there is no single experience of being asexual. We’re able to hear about the experiences of many different people who fall on the spectrum and how many obstacles they’ve faced in understanding themselves.

This book made me realize how much pressure, and expectations, society puts on us when it comes to sex. Why is it that we expect everyone, at some point, will want sexual relationships? Why do we place so much pressure, and shame, on people who don’t want sex? These are just a few of the questions I asked myself while reading this book.

I still have so much to learn about asexuality, and sexuality in general, but I feel like I have a great start with reading this book. There are other resources, and books, listed in the back that I’d like to also read through to have more understanding.