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A review by iaproton
Keep Pain in the Past: Getting Over Trauma, Grief and the Worst That's Ever Happened to You by Christopher Cortman, Joseph Walden
Did not finish book. Stopped at 5%.
Extremely Graphic Horrendous Story after story of the worst humans can do to each other ⚠️
Listening/ reading to this can leave you with some disturbing mental images ,especially if you suffer from trauma & have empathy/can relate to multiple forms of abuse. This is not entirely self-help as the title suggests,mostly horrendous stories. Honestly the author should know (his audience) better.
Some may find hearing the extreme traumas of people who recovered encouraging that "if they can recover ,so can I..." .To be fair he does start chapter one warning you before he starts the story of a client that has extreme trauma ,that the story is disturbing.
One good thing is the questions at the end of the chapter to evaluate & reflect on things in therapy,in your life...
If you want trauma information & can't bear to hear the stories, you're better off reading about symptoms & treatments off a reputable website,rather than this long drawn out book.You can also find workbooks & exercises off some of those government mental health websites,Australia & the UK have some for free,mostly for mild-moderate trauma.
Most of his recommendations centre around talking about & feeling the feelings in the horrible memories that resulted in trauma,he dismissed EMDR & is not so open to anything helping if it doesn't involve his method,which isn't suitable for everyone.
I suspect we have gentler trauma techniques nowadays, havening, tapping/EFT, biofeedback, vagus nerve stimulation, trauma release exercises,psychedelic assisted therapy,breathwork (for PTSD.not alone for c-PTSD), the flash technique & gentle trauma release,some forms of yoga which all need more research among other modalities that help with memory re-consolidation without having to constantly relive horrible memories in excruciating details over & over,which some people may not be able to tolerate physically (toll of the stress hormones).
Not sure if he addresses the very high drop out rate from this type of talk about every horrible detail therapy & how re-traumatization can happen for some with this approach ,simply because I couldn't listen to any more of it (some of the word emphasis made by the narrator in the audiobook sound a bit like Trump btw which could be off putting for some)
I'm glad it's helped some from the positive reviews,it just may not be suitable for everyone (his writing style & therapy approach).
Listening/ reading to this can leave you with some disturbing mental images ,especially if you suffer from trauma & have empathy/can relate to multiple forms of abuse. This is not entirely self-help as the title suggests,mostly horrendous stories. Honestly the author should know (his audience) better.
Some may find hearing the extreme traumas of people who recovered encouraging that "if they can recover ,so can I..." .To be fair he does start chapter one warning you before he starts the story of a client that has extreme trauma ,that the story is disturbing.
One good thing is the questions at the end of the chapter to evaluate & reflect on things in therapy,in your life...
If you want trauma information & can't bear to hear the stories, you're better off reading about symptoms & treatments off a reputable website,rather than this long drawn out book.You can also find workbooks & exercises off some of those government mental health websites,Australia & the UK have some for free,mostly for mild-moderate trauma.
Most of his recommendations centre around talking about & feeling the feelings in the horrible memories that resulted in trauma,he dismissed EMDR & is not so open to anything helping if it doesn't involve his method,which isn't suitable for everyone.
I suspect we have gentler trauma techniques nowadays, havening, tapping/EFT, biofeedback, vagus nerve stimulation, trauma release exercises,psychedelic assisted therapy,breathwork (for PTSD.not alone for c-PTSD), the flash technique & gentle trauma release,some forms of yoga which all need more research among other modalities that help with memory re-consolidation without having to constantly relive horrible memories in excruciating details over & over,which some people may not be able to tolerate physically (toll of the stress hormones).
Not sure if he addresses the very high drop out rate from this type of talk about every horrible detail therapy & how re-traumatization can happen for some with this approach ,simply because I couldn't listen to any more of it (some of the word emphasis made by the narrator in the audiobook sound a bit like Trump btw which could be off putting for some)
I'm glad it's helped some from the positive reviews,it just may not be suitable for everyone (his writing style & therapy approach).
Content Warnings
Graphic: Alcoholism, Animal cruelty, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Gore, Gun violence, Hate crime, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Terminal illness, Torture, Toxic relationship, Violence, Forced institutionalization, Medical content, Trafficking, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Suicide attempt, Murder, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Dysphoria