My therapist has diagnosed me with borderline tendencies. i do not completely fit the diagnostic critea for the borderline diagnosis. however, i do see these characteristics in me. never before has someone so completly exposed my inner thoughts and feelings. it was a relief in a way to understand there was a reason behind the way i acted or the things i said. this book was very informitave. my only fault with it is it didn't really tell me the person with borderline how to get better. it told my spouse how to deal with me in a way that actually would work, but my spouse in this case isn't the one reading the book. i am, and i want to get better. i want to have stratigies for me so that i can work on it on my own.