This book can help you rethink how you communicate with your kid and has lots of excellent tips with scenarios. Because it was written in the 80s, there are some issues. There are several parents in the book who were clearly abusing their children emotionally and physically, often in a way that was more acceptable then but clearly not okay. Also, the attitudes toward food and body size are awful. These situations pop up occasionally and are a real turn off (maybe also triggering for some readers), but there is some good content as well, which is why this book is still often recommended. I got good lessons out of it despite how dated some of it is.